The beginning point in learning how to relax is realizing we don’t know or do as much as we think we do.
In order to truly relax, we have to stop the numbing.
Yes, we’re good at convincing ourselves and others that we do, but that is just blowing smoke up the chimney.
We may go for many years and think we’ve escaped all the stress that we inject into our minds and bodies. However, sooner or later it will catch up with us in one way or another.
It may be physical pain or a heart attack. It could be conversion disorder like I experienced. There are all kinds of ways that stress can creep up on us and over 99% of the human population is completely oblivious to them.
Stop The Numbing
Most of the time when we keep ourselves busy, we don’t even notice most of what is going on in the body. We are more numb than we realize even if we do feel some pains and aches.
If we’re in this situation, the body and mind are so focused on surviving and making it through from one moment to the next, that there’s no time or energy to feel what is truly going on in the body.
Instead, we learn how to numb and disconnect so we can push through to the next moment. It is part of the human experience and when awareness is turned down, consciousness is a million miles from where we are.
To Learn How To Relax
To learn how to relax, we have to stop the numbing and disconnecting of the mind body connection. We’ve got to become aware of its existence so that we can begin to make better choices. It is an epidemic in this country and world that we are not as in touch with our mind body connection as we lead people to believe.
I see so many claiming that they are mindful or mind body connected and I can see right through it. Most are not even fooling themselves, but that doesn’t stop them from trying.
I may be stepping on your toes here and making you feel a little irritable with what I am writing. However, my intent is to help illuminate where we fall short. Remember, as I stated above and I wrote in my book, I was at the same place many years ago. In fact, I’m surprised I am still alive. I did not know how to stop the numbing.
Ways To Start Becoming Aware
In the following blog post, I’ll list some ways to start becoming aware as we stop the numbing and disconnect going on in the body. Please realize that if you don’t do this, the stress will catch up with you sooner or later. You may not realize it is there. You might not see how stressed you are, but if you don’t stop and deal with it, it will deal with you. I am absolutely certain of that point. I speak from experience.
I know I get pretty dogmatic on this subject and probably turn people off at times. I just realize from a firsthand experience what stress does and how easy it is not to be aware that it exists.
Learning how to relax and begin dealing with stress has been not only my journey but one I’ve worked to help others discover. I feel for people. I really feel for people because I see so much physical pain that they struggle with and how it holds them down. There are so many that struggle to deal with life because stress is consuming their every minute. It is robbing their energy and life force each and every day.
No, this is not new age mumbo jumbo. If you want to take care of your body, the only one you were given, then you really do need to draw a line in the sand. You need to discover and learn the ways to begin dealing with stress.
Keep checking back and reading the other parts in this series on relaxation and stress. Easy and simple strategies that I hope will help you in your life.
These have been posted weekly beginning on 7/1/2020.