How Did I Heal?


How Did I Heal?

Each one of us travels a different path. In my new book, Overcoming A Mysterious Condition, I share my journey and the concepts I used.

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“How Did I Heal” is the first chapter in my new book, Overcoming A Mysterious Condition.

It was not easy healing or finding my way through what life dealt to me. I struggled hard. Even though I can write about it now and make it sound coherent, it was anything but that during this journey.

Answering the question of how did I heal is not easy in the least bit. Some of it I have most likely forgotten and some of it can be painful to remember. It can be a bag of mixed blessings.

There are actually parts of the book that still push my emotional wounds to the surface. I really tried to tone this part down in the book because it can be too intense. I wanted to tell the story of how did I heal without overwhelming everyone’s compassion.

Early Days Of Healing

In the early days of healing, I had no internet to turn to for answers. My family had pretty much abandoned me because they were afraid of the truth that dared show itself.

I wasn’t aware of what to do, how to proceed, or if I would make it. Doctors at the time told me I would be lucky if I could ever make it back to work. Doctors told not to expect the life I once lived. These statements became motivating forces for me.

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My Healing Perspective Changed

When I focus on the steps of how did I heal, my perspective has changed so much from when I traveled through these moments. How I see things now and how I saw them as I progressed are two totally different points of view.

In some ways, though, I think not having the internet was a blessing in disguise. While there is a lot of good on it and a lot of help, I see some of it as not helpful. It often reinforces the things that don’t serve a good purpose for our lives. If we are not careful, we too closely identify with a label of our condition, rather than working to heal it.

While I talk down about the internet, a male survivor support forum became a positive healing experience for me. I’m not saying all the internet stuff is bad, but without it, I had to uncover every rock and find my way. I had to sift through the bad to find the good. These days, the internet can be too unconscious and really hurt us more than help us.

Keep Taking Steps

Healing is about taking steps

I learned to keep taking steps, both literally and figuratively. After the paralysis, what I had come to know my life to be was no longer true. In many ways I started with a blank slate, but I still had to go in and challenge all the beliefs and opinions I held.

Each one of us travels a different path. In my new book, Overcoming A Mysterious Condition, I share my journey and the concepts I used. It was not a step by step process, but one that took me in directions I would have never guessed at the start of my healing.

Overcoming A Mysterious Condition by Don Shetterly

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